Our experience with teens, young adults, and families who seek our guidance clearly demonstrates that the community at large
is struggling to maintain a sense of peace within themselves and within their homes. For this reason, we will provide several weeks of inspiration to foster better communication and
stronger relationships.
Finding peace is something we can all make happen. It will serve those we love. It will serve our community. And, it is a life’s work; a gentle, important, and calming piece of peace, one day at a time.
Once, a Menahel of a large yeshiva was confronted with a challenging situation in which it became clear that a student was
using drugs. The Menahel wanted permission to expel the talmid as he was deeply concerned with the negative influence on the
other talmidim. Seeking guidance, the Menahel approached Rav Aaron Yehuda Leib Shteinman, zt’l, esteemed Rosh Hayeshiva of
Ponevitch Le’Zeirim, and the address for many chinuch shailos. After hearing the details of the situation, Rav Shteinman asked him, “Tell me the name of the child?” The Menahel responded with the name of the talmid. Rav Shteinman asked him again, “No! Tell me, what is his name?” the Menahel repeated, “I just
told the Rov his name.” Rav Shteinman turned to him and said, “No, tell me his Hebrew name and the name of his mother.” The Menahel did not know the answer. Rav Shteinman said, “You want to tell me that you are about to kick a talmid out to the street, and you haven’t even been davening for his well-being? You haven’t cared enough even to learn his mother’s name?”
In an address to Rebbeim at the beginning of the school year, Rav Shteinman stressed a similar message. He shared that educators are obligated not only to educate but also to
take a sincere interest in their talmidim’s lives, especially when a student is struggling. He encouraged them to truly get to know
their talmidim outside the classroom; learn about the family, the dynamics in the home, and understand their relationship with
friends.
When a Rebbe reaches a deeper level of understanding of a talmid’s personal life and has gained sensitivity to any challenges
he faces, a Rebbe can impart profound lessons.
May we channel our talmidim’s youthful energy towards
healthy relationships, greater productivity, and inner peace and tranquility.
sfs